I've been thinking a lot about this post since it came out - and specifically about the ways those of us who are parents can perpetuate this culture with our own kids (and further create burnout in our own lives) by over-scheduling our kids. Spring seems like a time where this happens a lot - and I notice it among almost every parent I know. No one has time for themselves, not because they are working on weekends or in evenings, but because what little time they aren't working is given over to shuttling their kids to lessons, practice, concerts, games, etc. What are we telling our kids when we do this? Even if we SAY we resist "the cult of being busy" in our work lives, how do our actions as parents demonstrate this?
I loved the post. For me, in stressful times, to regain my agency is key. The first step is always to write all tasks down and to face thus reality. Even this can feel really scary but if done, it is always a good feeling. And the central question I ask myself is if the task/job could be done by anybody else or if I can bring in my special qualifications and my unique view. I am quite clear about my ambition and where I want to contribute to change in the museum field but as a freelancer I also have to consider which job gets paid well so the temptation to accept some jobs too fast is great. Therefore it is essential for me to pause from time to time and to ask myself: what is really really REALLY important to me? And thanks, Mike, for the final image taken from the film, being a small stone in the universe... it is quite powerful. And, Bel, yeah, 'if they judge, this is not my flock': thanks for that!
Hi Mike, your message came in the exact moment me ment when I'm having an honest review of priorities and setting myself the incredible hard task to review all the open projects and either canceling or rescheduling what can or should wait. Wait for me to be OK, wait for me to be less stressed about doing it all.
And it's extreeeemely hard. A shift of commitment that comes with an enormous fear. Of being judged, not accepted, cancelled, etc.
Today, I chose to push back a workshop on a apparently unique opportunity. And I chose it because I am exhausted and overworked. It felt too late to push, and embarrassing, but I'm exhausted and that can't be good.
I want to invite more the thinking of "if they judge, if they see me as less, than I'll know this is not my pack, my flock, my people. And it wil be OK.
Breathing and hoping others will join me on your beautiful invitation to change!
I've been thinking a lot about this post since it came out - and specifically about the ways those of us who are parents can perpetuate this culture with our own kids (and further create burnout in our own lives) by over-scheduling our kids. Spring seems like a time where this happens a lot - and I notice it among almost every parent I know. No one has time for themselves, not because they are working on weekends or in evenings, but because what little time they aren't working is given over to shuttling their kids to lessons, practice, concerts, games, etc. What are we telling our kids when we do this? Even if we SAY we resist "the cult of being busy" in our work lives, how do our actions as parents demonstrate this?
Hi Mike, hi Bel, hi all,
I loved the post. For me, in stressful times, to regain my agency is key. The first step is always to write all tasks down and to face thus reality. Even this can feel really scary but if done, it is always a good feeling. And the central question I ask myself is if the task/job could be done by anybody else or if I can bring in my special qualifications and my unique view. I am quite clear about my ambition and where I want to contribute to change in the museum field but as a freelancer I also have to consider which job gets paid well so the temptation to accept some jobs too fast is great. Therefore it is essential for me to pause from time to time and to ask myself: what is really really REALLY important to me? And thanks, Mike, for the final image taken from the film, being a small stone in the universe... it is quite powerful. And, Bel, yeah, 'if they judge, this is not my flock': thanks for that!
Hi Mike, your message came in the exact moment me ment when I'm having an honest review of priorities and setting myself the incredible hard task to review all the open projects and either canceling or rescheduling what can or should wait. Wait for me to be OK, wait for me to be less stressed about doing it all.
And it's extreeeemely hard. A shift of commitment that comes with an enormous fear. Of being judged, not accepted, cancelled, etc.
Today, I chose to push back a workshop on a apparently unique opportunity. And I chose it because I am exhausted and overworked. It felt too late to push, and embarrassing, but I'm exhausted and that can't be good.
I want to invite more the thinking of "if they judge, if they see me as less, than I'll know this is not my pack, my flock, my people. And it wil be OK.
Breathing and hoping others will join me on your beautiful invitation to change!